Friendship is a mystery to me. It is constantly evolving and in today’s social media world it is totally changing.
For the longest, longest time I completely resisted Facebook and any such connection points. My argument was that if I know something about you, it will be because you had made the time to tell me, to include me in your life. And that I had made the time to meet with you, listen to you and give you my exclusive attention.
When I published The Gauguin Connection, I realised that I would have to connect to the world out there via social networking sites – hence this blog. Still I resist using FB for personal use – I really, really, really want to connect to my best friend through an email, a phone call, an sms or Skype (she lives in a different country). I don’t want to learn about her kids’ cuteness through an impersonal ‘international’ announcement on FB. Am I just being weird? Or the gods forbid, old!?!?
Last weekend I visited a very, very dear friend of mine and loved every minute of it! We were pretty much housebound for the weekend (small baby + bad weather = long chats around the table). It was fabulous! We solved the world’s problems, talked about everyone and everything and coo’ed at the baby. It is in that personal contact that I am overwhelmed by the depth of her friendship and the amazing support that I receive.
But… in the months since the publication of The Gauguin Connection, I’ve actually come to enjoy all these different social media connection points. First I should say that at times I really find the influx of info overwhelming. There are so many places now that I have to click on and check!! The fun thing has been the interesting and new people I’ve met and been in contact with. Those would include a few fans (I feel sooooo famous!!!) and I think that has been the coolest. Connecting with other writers has made me feel less isolated in this strange creative world I live in. I’m learning that it’s not only bad. But I truly, seriously, really, absolutely, totally prefer a two sentence email/sms addressed to me. Or a 3 minute phone call.
Do you feel the same? Or do you prefer connecting via social media?