“There’s language in her eye, her cheek, her lip,
Nay, her foot speaks; her wanton spirits look out
At every joint and motive of her body.” – Shakespeare
Oh, if only we knew all the secrets we revealed with our body language! One of those secrets is our attraction to someone else. Research has only confirmed what we already know – our entire body changes when we are in close proximity of someone we like, are attracted to or want to impress with our sensuality/sexuality.
Think about it for a moment. You’re walking down the street (doesn’t matter if you’re married, old, overweight, plain or a supermodel) and a very attractive man/woman walks towards you. What do you do? Well, the first thing men AND women do is suck in the belly and lift the chest. Of course for women that has an even more beneficial effect – pulling the eyes to one of the ‘hot zones’.
Say it is a little more intimate than a simple ‘pass by’ on the street. You are at a dinner party and are attracted to a newcomer. With every movement your body will convey your availability, enthusiasm, sexiness, readiness or even desperation. Both men and women would want to impress the other person with their suitability as a partner. Just a few posture changes and you will appear healthier, younger, livelier … and available.
Men will push out their jaw and stand taller to appear more dominant. A woman will do anything and everything to bring attention to her chest, she will touch her hair and show her wrists in a show of submission. At least this is what the books and years of research and observation say. As a strong-minded, independent woman, I find that just a little cave-man, but hey… we can’t fight our limbic responses. Our limbic brain is the part of the brain that reacts to the world around us – it’s reflexive, spontaneous, without thought or premeditation. And yes, I’m sure I’ve flashed my independent wrists at some gorgeous hunk a time or eight.
Well, us women are much more complicated than men – a fact that has (unnecessarily) been proven a gazillion times. To emphasise this point: Women has on average 14 areas in her brain dedicated to communication. Men? 4-6. This is why women can hold three different conversations at the same time. Men only one. Women are also much more proficient at reading nonverbal cues than men. It has been proven, however, that men in caring professions such as doctors, psychologists, etc., become even more proficient than the average woman.
In my next post I will neatly list the typical nonverbal cues you will see in a woman attracted to a man and the male equivalent. Always handy in case the 14 (for women) or 4-6 (for men) communication areas in your brain fail to interpret the signals correctly. Until then, keep sucking in those bellies!!